Treat it like fast food.I don’t mean gobble it down with soda — I’m talking healthy frequency. Like fast food, porn is designed to be highly stimulating, convenient and, arguably, addictive. Just as a diet of namely fast food can reduce your taste for nutritious fare, watching porn routinely could lower your ability to enjoy natural sexual intimacy. If you want to use porn, make it a treat, not a staple. If you can’t, see #6.
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Choose your turn-ons wisely.What we focus on during arousal creates pathways and patterns in the brain, says neuroscientist and author of Wired for Intimacy Dr. William Struthers. In other words, we can choose what turns us on. Consistent use could make porn the only thing that arouses you. Have sex without thinking about or viewing porn most often. If you want to be turned on by your partner, fantasize about him or her. That little thing called imagination? So important.
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Know the difference between porn and reality.If mainstream, hardcore porn mirrored real-world sex, we’d all naturally crave anal sex and gang bangs, and women would squirt with every climax. (Just ask Cindy Gallop, the creator and CEO of Make Love Not Porn.) Recognize the differences between porn and real sex. Maintain realistic standardsKnow your personality. If you have an addictive personality or high sex drive, take added caution with porn. Recent research published in JAMA Psychiatry shows that these factors increase your risk for dependency. Invest your compulsiveness into healthier ventures, such as pursuing your life passions and cultivating intimacy with your partner.
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When in doubt, leave it out.Even if you aren’t experiencing obvious problems due to porn, it could be zapping your enjoyment of sex, according to a recent Archives of Sexual Behavior study. If you’re not sure how your porn habits are affecting you, give it up for a while. If a break seems daunting, you may want to start one pronto.
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If it’s problematic, seek help.Like most addictions, porn dependency instills shame, which keeps many sufferers from getting help. Whether you’re grappling with addiction or milder problems you can’t seem to manage, seek support from a qualified expert — not someone who buys into the “boys will be boys” mentality. Women are susceptible to porn addiction, too, and accepting any hurtful behavior as “normal” won’t help

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